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It happens most often with preschool children; but when I say “most often”, I don’t mean that it happens often. When it does happen (rarely), it’s with preschool children, usually. So what is it that we’re talking about? It’s a phenomenon called School Refusal. A child psychologist would be familiar with this; a general pediatrician probably wouldn’t. It usually happens like this – a parent of a small child repeatedly shows up at the emergency room trying to get her child treated for some kind of ordinary ailment – a sore throat, a cough, a headache that won’t go away – something or the other. The parent asks for a doctor’s note so that the child can skip a day’s school. If an attending physician isn’t really attentive, he’s going to miss how it’s so many complaints by one child. Pretty soon, the doctor gets a call from the school, wondering what’s going on. How can one child get sick this often – often enough to miss months of school, with sheafs of doctor’s notes?


As it turns out, in these cases the child is faking it, because he suffers from a phobia of school. Often, it’s something that comes from a kind of anxiety disorder and depression. School refusal though isn’t really a disease. It’s a symptom of several kinds of problems. A child can have a learning disorder; there could be a psychological problem where the child just doesn’t engage with the whole learning endeavor (the way some adults just don’t engage with the world of the working); there could be a bully; they could have problems being social. It’s just that one of the primary ways in which preschool children (or even children who are slightly older than that) carry out their plan is faking illnesses. As a child grows older, all-out truancy may be the method of choice.


Since school refusal is only a symptom, diagnosing the cause that stands behind it can be quite a problem. It requires a child psychologist, a pediatrician and a teacher to come together to try to thrash out a solution. The cause could be school related, as in a bully, it could be psychological, as an a learning disability or a fear of certain school related social situations, or it could be health related.


The basic idea here then is that if one finds preschool children (since school refusal usually starts at an early age) missing school far too much for what appears to be completely legitimate reasons, one needs to suspect school refusal. Almost all children manage to go to school regularly in spite of anything that life throws up. If a particular child happens to have everything in his life working up to one more reason why he should skip school, it’s time to ask psychologist about school refusal.


Also read: Helene Goldnadel Tips for Being An Effective Advocate for Your Child’s Education

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As part of a child’s normal developmental stages, she or he will reach a very important stage, which is getting ready for school. This is one of the major steps a child may encounter in his or her life. This is something big for them because this is the time where they now start to face the real world and separation from parents begins. This could be a crucial part for parents and also for the child.


When your child reaches 3 or 4 years of age, as parents, you will most probably prepare your child for school. Getting yourselves ready for your child’s first big event is not enough. Your child needs to be prepared the most. How will you know if your child is ready? Well, this article by Helene Goldnadel a life coach may help you, as it provides three signs that your child is ready for school:


  1. Social aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is already social readiness. Social readiness means your child can now make friends and is socially interactive. This is the time when your child can actually create his or her circle of friends. Being at school requires your child to be with groups and some company. When your child is socially ready, then she or he is now ready for school.
  2. Emotional aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is already emotional readiness. Emotional readiness means that your child can now actually separate from guardians or from you. They already know how to adjust well with the separation. They no longer seek for their parent’s company and are emotionally comfortable with others. When the emotional aspect of your child is already prepared, then she or he is already ready for school.
  3. Behavioral aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is behavioral readiness. Behavioral readiness means that your child is able to make his or her decisions and act it according to his or her own thinking. Your child now may be able to take control over his or her things. She or he may be able to take responsibility of his or her own toys and be able to share it with others. When she respects and considers other people, especially people in authority, then your child is ready for school.


You see, there are so many aspects you need to consider when preparing your child for school. As parents, you also need to be prepared. Prepared enough to let go of your child and let him or her be welcomed in the real world. Along with your readiness, you also need to take some important signs to determine if your child is already ready for school. So parents, take responsibility!

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Below are the study habits to develop before tour child starts school discussed by Helene Goldnadel a life coach:


1) Create a study area in your home. This should be away from distractions, like TV or computer, and it should NOT be in their bedroom. If you haven’t been working with your child in a set location or your work area has been in their bedroom, then 4 – 6 months before school starts, switch to working at the “school station” or whatever you want to call it.


The reason for not working in the child’s bedroom is that as your child gets older, that room gains toys, TVs, computers, etc. It just provides too many distractions.


2) Create a set study habit with a set time and structure. For now, the time can be whenever you want, but stick to that time to work with your child. Choose a couple of topics you want to work on–or let your child choose. These topics do not need to be about math. Your child will eventually have homework in everything. Practice whatever you decided on for about 10 to 15 minutes. Then take a short break for the bathroom, getting a drink of water or juice, or doing a little exercise. (Exercise is good for the brain. Incorporating exercise into study sessions is a very good idea.)


Initially, you should probably just do 2 study sessions early and then maybe 2 more later in the day. Once your child starts school, homework will govern how many sessions are needed to complete the homework and review. Extend the sessions to 15 to 20 minutes with a short break in between. The length of the session will increase as your child gets older. That break may become for phone calls or texting when your child is older, but maintain your schedule. No two-hour phone breaks.


3) Start teaching your child how to study, although you have hopefully been doing this all along. Have your child read out loud to make these things both auditory and visual. Start using the word “review.” “Let’s review our…” Pick something you haven’t done for a while. Reviewing past material needs to become an automatic and expected part of studying. As your child has homework, your child should read it out loud and explain any reasoning needed to figure the answer.


4) Check over the work. If he/she has written anything out, have him explain something to you. “Tell me how you did this one.” Right now you want your child to be able to give you verbal explanations of what he did and/or why. You are also checking to make sure there are NO mistakes what have been duplicated. IMPORTANT! If you find any, point them out to your child and then do several practice problems of the same type, but keep returning to the mistake several times until you are sure the mistake is corrected.


Practiced mistakes are more likely to happen at school, but it will fall to you to find them and fix them. Check their papers very carefully during the first few years of school. Never let a practiced mistake go unattended. It will become permanent.


5) Always be focusing on and discussing:


  • Learning is of the utmost important to your child’s future.
  • Learning is his/her responsibility–not yours!
  • All learning that happens now will make future learning easier. (Learning causes dendrites to grow in the brain making more and more connections with other dendrites. The more connections there are, the easier and better learning becomes. It’s true!)
  • Always keep the learning environment positive, rewarding, and successful.
  • Provide healthy snacks and do exercise during breaks.


Be sure that before you start this new study routine, you explain to your child why you are doing it. In a friend’s kindergarten class, they have 1 goal: to be ready for 1st grade.” When she says, “Why do we sit quietly in our chairs?” or “Why are we learning our letter sounds?” the answer is always “to be ready for 1st grade.”


Maybe now would be a good time to instill the concept of being ready to start school.


Also note that having set work sessions does not prevent you from working on numbers or letters or anything else anytime you want–especially if you are out and about.


Also read: Helene Goldnadel Tips to Help Your ADHD Learner Find School Success

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Many angry parents lament that their child does not take homework seriously. This warrants a question – how effectively have such parents communicated the importance of homework in education to their children in the first place?


Our kids must know for certain that we, as parents, consider homework important and significant. Here are some tips by Helene Goldnadel for parents to achieve this:


  • Ask the child after each school day what homework the teacher has assigned
  • Set aside fixed time for homework, and ensure that the child is not distracted by TV, friends or mealtimes during this period
  • By the same coin, ensure that the child does not do homework during times set aside for play, chores or family togetherness times
  • Let the child know that you’re available for helping out with the homework
  • Let the child know how homework is important in the overall context of education
  • Make encouraging remarks such as “Good boy” or “That’s my girl” when the child announces that homework is done
  • Check with teachers regularly to get feedback on how your child is doing on the homework front
  • Firmly refuse to cover up for the child with notes to the teacher if homework has not been completed


Apart from the above, it is very important to assign a dedicated place in the house for doing homework. Ideally, it should be in the child’s room, but this is not mandatory. If your child is happier doing homework at the dinner table or at the spare table in your study, then that should be the dedicated ‘homework place.’


No matter which place your child chooses, make sure it is properly lighted, quiet and otherwise comfortable. The table and chair should be of appropriate height and size, and all necessary supplies (dictionary, pencils, sharpeners, erasers, spare ballpoint pens, etc.) should be at hand.


To be able to teach your child the importance of homework, you as parents can start by displaying the right values yourself. Nothing sets a better example than letting your child see you read, write and generally engage in thought-based activity with the right degree of seriousness. It is a proven fact that children of parents who read a lot tend to pick up the habit themselves. Showcasing your high regard for regularly doing certain tasks at certain times will help your child understand the importance of structured activity.


Most importantly – the next time you’re tempted to agree with your child that homework is boring and a pain, think again. Children pick up their values from their parents. This is your chance of imparting the right attitude towards homework, so choose your response carefully.

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Although it might feel as though you are not getting anything practical done, when you are actually layering the foundations of knowledge, you are in a more powerful position in the long term to be able to make decisions that affect your child within your interactions and for their lifestyle for many years to come.


Having the knowledge is crucial for parents because parents are the ones that spend the most amount of time with their child, know their child the best and will sustain the duration with them over their lifespan.


Below are the top reasons by Helene Goldnadel why you need to educate yourself in autism:


1) Having the underlying knowledge as to WHY you are doing something is SO much more valuable than just being told to do something and do it. Why? Because you will find so many more opportunities to achieve the ‘why bother?’ throughout your day as opposed to doing the ‘what’ once or repeating it over and over.


2) Parents know their child better than any professional ever will. Put this together with the knowledge a professional knows and can apply, and you are more likely to achieve amazing things with your child. As a consultant it is my goal to pass on the knowledge that you will require to make the most advances with your child.


3) New developments. You may think to yourself ‘alright already, I know what autism is, let’s just get on with it’ BUT there are always new developments in research, child development, strategies as well as various perspectives to take on from different approaches. I am not saying that you need to know EVERYTHING before you can do ANYTHING but having an open mind and being receptive to learning as you go along will only equip you with a better stance to help your child. The fact of the matter is you never stop learning; each time you find another piece to the puzzle.


4) Layering the foundations and groundwork of any approach before doing it can only encourage you to understand what you are doing better, gain clarity on why you are doing it and what your goals are that you are aiming to achieve from doing it.


5) Be the change you want to see in the world! If you are expecting others to have a better awareness of autism, then it’s probably a good idea for you to educate yourself in autism so that you can then share this knowledge with other family, friends and members of the community. Let’s face it, if we leave it to authorities it may not ever get done and it’s just too much to expect professionals to cover alone, we ALL need to play our role in this area.


Most parents did not have autism in their life plan, I know. We learn to deal with the lessons life throws at us and for some reason or another, this is where we are right now. It’s time to embrace it, learn about it and take on the challenges we have been given and come out the other side, braver, more experienced, knowledgeable and stronger beings.

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Every eight seconds, more and more babies are being born all over the world. Every minute, more and more parents are thinking of ways to make their children the best among the rest. These parents are more likely to explore the whole world just to be able to give everything to their kids to make them grow smarter and wiser. They believe that educational toys are absolutely their partners in raising smarter babies. Hence, most, if not all, these parents will look for every educational toy they can grab in the market today.


But what makes an educational toy different from an ordinary toy? Essentially, these toys, just like other toys, are simply invented for and to be used by children. Any person can argue that an educational toy is in fact any toy. The only difference they have is how the children perceive these toys or the reality of their significance.


Ideally, an educational toy, which is believe to be our partners in raising smarter babies advances intellectuality and imagination, and promotes the emotional, physical, and social development of children. These toys pave ways to faster learning of children with new skills. Therefore, what really makes this toy different from other usual toys is the child’s learning and development associated with playing with them.


Simple wooden blocks are actually a good start for preschool children to instigate learning the elementary principles of science and causal relationships, as well as patience and basic hand-eye coordination. Elementary children can be encouraged to play with interlocking manipulative toys like Legos or puzzles to further improve their mind-body coordination, virtue of patience, and appreciation of spatial relationships.


All educators hold the same opinion that is, the most effective, most natural, and the best method of educating children is through play. Among the most important elements in teaching children are educational toys, developmental games, and learning materials. But there are really no rules in deciding the right choice of toys and games for your children. You can try experimenting from simple books and educational toys moving gradually to more intricate educational games, science activities, and puzzles.


If there is actually a rule, it can only be one that is, to go after your child’s interests. You can tag along your kid’s interests be it play dough clays or electronic keyboard or pirate games as you will never go wrong with these. For sure, they will inspire your children’s imagination, senses, and cleverness. Let them express themselves either through academic subjects (i.e., music, art, history, language) or sports (i.e., ball games, skating, ballet).


There are indeed so many ways to raise our children to be smarter and wiser people. We have all kinds of educational toys available in the market. We just have to know well what are outside there and learn how to listen and support our children’s interests. We can give them heaps of educational toys but if the child has no interest, then it cannot serve its function to educate the child.


Make sure you will introduce your children to variety of educational toys and when they already choose one or two, you just have to guide them along the way. Remember, these educational toys are just our partners in raising smarter babies but they are not the sole key to success. As the saying goes, Nine tenths of education is Encouragement. Parents as well as educators just have to make these children realize that learning is not so boring after all, but rather a fun development of themselves.


Also read: Effective Ways by Helene Goldnadel of Teaching an Autistic Child

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Your child is struggling in school. This could be with academics, behavior, socialization, emotional regulation, or physical development. The first thing you should do is talk to your child’s teacher and asks if the teacher is seeing your child struggle as well. School should be challenging, but not frustrating and overwhelming. Your child should be making what is called effective progress. This means that they are learning and developing at a steady pace and at the same rate as their peers. If not, you may suspect a learning disability.


Request an evaluation from the school department. Always put the request in writing and address it to the Special Needs Department. The School Department should evaluate your child in all areas of suspected disability. This includes psychological, educational achievement, speech and language, occupational therapy, physical therapy, social and functional skills, and functional behavioral. Check out my next article about evaluations. Titled, Evaluations, what are they and what do they tell us.


Once the school department completes the evaluations, there should be a meeting called a team meeting. The team includes a representative from the special education office, a representative from the school (principal, vice Principal, guidance counselor, etc…) a regular education teacher, a special education teacher, a school psychologist, a speech therapist, an occupational therapist, a physical therapist, and anyone that needs to be present to discuss evaluation results and provide input to the team to help determine if your child is eligible for services and what they will look like.


If your child is determined to have a disability and is eligible for special education, then a Individual Education Program (IEP) is developed with accommodations, goals, and services. These are based on your child’s needs as demonstrated through the evaluations. Your child’s strengths, vision and goals should always be included in the IEP.


This can be a daunting process and if you are able to hire someone, such as, an advocate, or attorney, it is in your best interest to do so. You want to make sure that your child gets the services and supports that they need or the struggle with school will continue. With fewer funds available to schools and the services provided to children with special needs, you sometimes have to fight for what your child is entitled to under the law.


Also read: Helene Goldnadel on Making Home Safe for a Child

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To be honest, writing for any genre should be enjoyable but writing for children seems to have extra appeal. Don’t be fooled into thinking that writing for children is easy – it’s not! There are strict guidelines and rules that have to be adhered to when writing for children but this should not diminish the fun and pleasure it can bring.


Writing for children can be enjoyable for many reasons; you can use your creative powers, you can allow your imagination to flow, you can recreate some of your own wonderful childhood games and memories, you can picture children’s faces reading your stories – the list is endless!


To be able to write for children, you have to put yourself in the mind of a child, to think like a child, have a child’s curiosity and understand what it is that they like. This is not easy to do once your mind has been exposed to a broad range of experiences and life itself. For those who are young at heart, writing children’s stories can be incredibly satisfying and rewarding.


One of the most enjoyable aspects of writing for children is planning the story and researching for it. You should look to some of your own favorite books, which don’t have to be children’s books, to find out what works. However, you need to make the story work for you and make it your own. You may have a particular interest in fantasy or science- fiction so perhaps writing a story in that genre is better for you and certainly should be an enjoyable experience.


For all types of writing, the story is the most important part; however, you can have great fun developing your characters! Create characters that are likeable or that children will love to hate. The great thing about writing for children is that the characters can be whatever you want them to be. You can have a talking dog, a cow with three heads – whatever you want! This is one of the big differences between writing for adults and children. You can use humor in your writing and be as silly as you like. Being silly often adds enjoyment for the adult who might be reading the book also!


Writing children’s books often involves using pictures to enhance the story. Pictures can really add to the story and children love to see what they are reading about. You get to use bright, happy colors for happy parts of the story or dark, muted colors for sad parts of the story. You can also add humor through pictures and depending on your level of artwork, you may do the illustrations yourself which adds another level of enjoyment!


Helene Goldnadel says that one of the most enjoyable aspects of writing for children is that you can contribute to their enjoyment of words and reading and make them want to read even more. This is a wonderful gift and one that you should nurture and ensure you use to the best of your ability by producing high quality books that may get to a child and change their lives forever.


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Some kids just don’t like to write. Others find the lure of technology much more responsive and engaging. So what is a parent to do? Kids still need good old-fashioned paper and pencil skills, right? Here are some engaging activities by Helene Goldnadel that your child may actually enjoy more than tapping the keys on your iPhone.


  • Arrange a pen-pal: Has a dear friend or relative recently moved away? Do you sponsor a child that lives in an exotic part of the world? Have you thought about signing up for a pen-pal? These are all great ways for your child to practice storytelling, writing, and penmanship skills. The best part is anticipating and checking the mail to see if there is a response!
  • Post cards: If you’re on the go with the family, stop by your nearest tourist trap establishment and purchase some postcards. Your child will enjoy telling friends and family about their discoveries and adventures. Just be sure to carry an address book and post card stamps with you.
  • Make lists: Kids generally like to be helpful. You can include your child and teach a valuable skill when you enlist them to write grocery and shopping lists. Keep a running list on your refrigerator and ask your child to add items as needed. Planning a trip? Your child can create a packing list and check off items as they are put in the suitcases.
  • Make an itinerary: Itineraries involve a bit of research so this is an excellent activity for older children. Itineraries can be useful for planning local outings such as a park/picnic day, birthday party, or another event that your family must plan. If you happen to be arranging a trip, your child can investigate landmarks, museums, parks, or other places of interest and create an itinerary.
  • Recipe cards: Do you have a mini-chef in the family? Your child can write down favorite recipes on index cards and file them for future use. An older child can even practice alphabetizing skills.
  • Thank you notes: Reinforce good manners by reminding your child to write thank you notes for any gifts received during the holidays and birthday. Addressing envelopes is an important writing skill, too!
  • Creative writing: Give your child a blank notebook to create new endings to favorite stories, write his or her own story, or even a comic strip. Be sure to encourage lots of illustrations! If you wish to print your child’s stories, you can send them to a copy shop and have them spiral bound.
  • Journaling: Does your child have a journal or diary? Some children enjoy writing down events of the day or penning their feelings. Years later, your child may enjoy re-reading the journal.
  • Tongue twisters: Tongue twisters can be really fun to say. Encourage your child to create an unique tongue twister. Family competitions may ensue!
  • Scrapbooking: Appoint your child as the family historian. Your child can use creativity to adorn and annotate pictures of important family events. This can be something you enjoy doing together, too! If scrapbooking isn’t of interest, perhaps the creation of a family blog will do. Adding pictures and stories of events will be appreciated by family and friends from afar. This enhances your child’s technology skills as well.


Writing doesn’t have to be boring. Your child can learn valuable writing skills from participating in enjoyable, creative, and helpful activities. If your child shows interest in one of these ideas in particular, go with it. All it takes is one spark to light the fire!

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Most of the time you can trust the diagnosing dyslexia and dyslexia treatment of your children to skilled teachers in your local education system. Dyslexia in children is now routinely screened for and detected. But every parent wants to help his or her kids do better in school.


And many parents feel that the education of their children is too important to pass off to the teachers and forget about. If you have a child with dyslexia or a child who is having difficulty in reading you want to help. You want to get involved in homework, interact with your child and understand how the child is progressing.


Fortunately there are a variety of tools available to help you in this. Helene Goldnadel discusses some of them here.


First off, there is a line of computer games used in the diagnosis of dyslexia in children that you might want to look into. There is a whole series of such games developed by The Diagnostic Gaming Company, with different games used for different ages and stages of development of the children they are designed to test.


Qualified specialists have participated in the design and testing of these games, to make them useful tools in early dyslexia screening and testing.


It ends up being just some fun games for the children to play. They usually have no idea that there is some kind of test involved. A parent or teacher reads the manual first, understands what is supposed to happen and can just unobtrusively watch while the children play. Parts of the games are designed to test for dyslexia symptoms.


If a child has a potential problem with some dyslexic condition, then that child will have difficulties with certain parts of the game. An adult observer who knows the rules from reading the handbook can quickly see, and make note of, the specific problem area. Then armed with the info a specialist can be consulted.


Also there are games available that help treat dyslexia symptoms in children. Games have been developed using proven methods to help dyslexic children work around and overcome their problems. Trained specialists have incorporated these methods and techniques into games that children find to be both entertaining and fun.

That makes the games easy to teach the children and play with. This, as well as being highly effective in teaching useful skills and ways to overcome dyslexia symptoms.


These games are easy to obtain over the Internet. You can download them and print out the parts that need to be printed out. Then you read over the instructions and start playing the games with your children. For many games the whole thing can be downloaded, printed out and started playing within minutes.


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