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It happens most often with preschool children; but when I say “most often”, I don’t mean that it happens often. When it does happen (rarely), it’s with preschool children, usually. So what is it that we’re talking about? It’s a phenomenon called School Refusal. A child psychologist would be familiar with this; a general pediatrician probably wouldn’t. It usually happens like this – a parent of a small child repeatedly shows up at the emergency room trying to get her child treated for some kind of ordinary ailment – a sore throat, a cough, a headache that won’t go away – something or the other. The parent asks for a doctor’s note so that the child can skip a day’s school. If an attending physician isn’t really attentive, he’s going to miss how it’s so many complaints by one child. Pretty soon, the doctor gets a call from the school, wondering what’s going on. How can one child get sick this often – often enough to miss months of school, with sheafs of doctor’s notes?


As it turns out, in these cases the child is faking it, because he suffers from a phobia of school. Often, it’s something that comes from a kind of anxiety disorder and depression. School refusal though isn’t really a disease. It’s a symptom of several kinds of problems. A child can have a learning disorder; there could be a psychological problem where the child just doesn’t engage with the whole learning endeavor (the way some adults just don’t engage with the world of the working); there could be a bully; they could have problems being social. It’s just that one of the primary ways in which preschool children (or even children who are slightly older than that) carry out their plan is faking illnesses. As a child grows older, all-out truancy may be the method of choice.


Since school refusal is only a symptom, diagnosing the cause that stands behind it can be quite a problem. It requires a child psychologist, a pediatrician and a teacher to come together to try to thrash out a solution. The cause could be school related, as in a bully, it could be psychological, as an a learning disability or a fear of certain school related social situations, or it could be health related.


The basic idea here then is that if one finds preschool children (since school refusal usually starts at an early age) missing school far too much for what appears to be completely legitimate reasons, one needs to suspect school refusal. Almost all children manage to go to school regularly in spite of anything that life throws up. If a particular child happens to have everything in his life working up to one more reason why he should skip school, it’s time to ask psychologist about school refusal.


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Didaskaleinophobia is also referred as School Phobia. This phobia is characterized by a fear of going to school. Children in the age group of 8 to 13 are the ones who tend to be extremely debilitating if this condition is allowed to progress over a period of time. Various techniques can aid you in managing the school phobia. Children derive great inspiration from the professionals of psychotherapy who can in turn help the parents and the school authorities in supporting the child.


Various causes lead to the development of Phobia. In most of the cases, it is commonly associated with the anxiety of separation. Different kinds of stress can also evoke this phenomenon. A divorce of the parents, a loss of a loved one, suffering, learning disability constant confrontation with the bullying can develop school phobia in the child. A child may be extremely worried about his/ her performance in the school or may or may not like a particular teaching style. Helene Goldnadel says that one of the most important steps in the diagnosis and treatment of school phobia is to find out the main causes that led to the development of the school phobia.


The child may tend to throw numerous tantrums to avoid going to the school. He/ she may protest extravagantly or pretend to be unwell. After going to the school, the child may not attend the classes and run away or may also depict many behavioral problems in the class or on the playground. The very discussion of the school can make the child upset, angry or aggressive.


When parents get to know about the school phobia that the child is undergoing, they need to address it with professional help. If the school phobia is left untreated for a long period, it can interfere with the child’s success and performance in the school. The treatment involves psychotherapy sessions coupled with various adjustments to be made at home to keep the child at ease. For instance: If bullying is the cause, then this situation can be handled by addressing it in an appropriate manner. A staff member can take up the responsibility of escorting the child to the class and also provide the necessary support as and when needed. This will improve the confidence of the child as he/ she knows that there is a friendly adult who can help him/ her to come out of any difficult situation.


Various changes are also recommended at home. This can include supportive language from the parents, with good and warm assistance in homework. If the child is not comfortable, then parents can encourage the child to explore his/ her area of interest and achieve mastery in it. This will give the child the much-needed boost to prove oneself. Parents can sit and discuss about their fear and success stories in school to encourage them to overcome their fears. A school phobia can be dispelled with the help of structured activities at home and reading.

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As part of a child’s normal developmental stages, she or he will reach a very important stage, which is getting ready for school. This is one of the major steps a child may encounter in his or her life. This is something big for them because this is the time where they now start to face the real world and separation from parents begins. This could be a crucial part for parents and also for the child.


When your child reaches 3 or 4 years of age, as parents, you will most probably prepare your child for school. Getting yourselves ready for your child’s first big event is not enough. Your child needs to be prepared the most. How will you know if your child is ready? Well, this article by Helene Goldnadel a life coach may help you, as it provides three signs that your child is ready for school:


  1. Social aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is already social readiness. Social readiness means your child can now make friends and is socially interactive. This is the time when your child can actually create his or her circle of friends. Being at school requires your child to be with groups and some company. When your child is socially ready, then she or he is now ready for school.
  2. Emotional aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is already emotional readiness. Emotional readiness means that your child can now actually separate from guardians or from you. They already know how to adjust well with the separation. They no longer seek for their parent’s company and are emotionally comfortable with others. When the emotional aspect of your child is already prepared, then she or he is already ready for school.
  3. Behavioral aspect - You will know when your child is ready for school when there is behavioral readiness. Behavioral readiness means that your child is able to make his or her decisions and act it according to his or her own thinking. Your child now may be able to take control over his or her things. She or he may be able to take responsibility of his or her own toys and be able to share it with others. When she respects and considers other people, especially people in authority, then your child is ready for school.


You see, there are so many aspects you need to consider when preparing your child for school. As parents, you also need to be prepared. Prepared enough to let go of your child and let him or her be welcomed in the real world. Along with your readiness, you also need to take some important signs to determine if your child is already ready for school. So parents, take responsibility!

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Below are the study habits to develop before tour child starts school discussed by Helene Goldnadel a life coach:


1) Create a study area in your home. This should be away from distractions, like TV or computer, and it should NOT be in their bedroom. If you haven’t been working with your child in a set location or your work area has been in their bedroom, then 4 – 6 months before school starts, switch to working at the “school station” or whatever you want to call it.


The reason for not working in the child’s bedroom is that as your child gets older, that room gains toys, TVs, computers, etc. It just provides too many distractions.


2) Create a set study habit with a set time and structure. For now, the time can be whenever you want, but stick to that time to work with your child. Choose a couple of topics you want to work on–or let your child choose. These topics do not need to be about math. Your child will eventually have homework in everything. Practice whatever you decided on for about 10 to 15 minutes. Then take a short break for the bathroom, getting a drink of water or juice, or doing a little exercise. (Exercise is good for the brain. Incorporating exercise into study sessions is a very good idea.)


Initially, you should probably just do 2 study sessions early and then maybe 2 more later in the day. Once your child starts school, homework will govern how many sessions are needed to complete the homework and review. Extend the sessions to 15 to 20 minutes with a short break in between. The length of the session will increase as your child gets older. That break may become for phone calls or texting when your child is older, but maintain your schedule. No two-hour phone breaks.


3) Start teaching your child how to study, although you have hopefully been doing this all along. Have your child read out loud to make these things both auditory and visual. Start using the word “review.” “Let’s review our…” Pick something you haven’t done for a while. Reviewing past material needs to become an automatic and expected part of studying. As your child has homework, your child should read it out loud and explain any reasoning needed to figure the answer.


4) Check over the work. If he/she has written anything out, have him explain something to you. “Tell me how you did this one.” Right now you want your child to be able to give you verbal explanations of what he did and/or why. You are also checking to make sure there are NO mistakes what have been duplicated. IMPORTANT! If you find any, point them out to your child and then do several practice problems of the same type, but keep returning to the mistake several times until you are sure the mistake is corrected.


Practiced mistakes are more likely to happen at school, but it will fall to you to find them and fix them. Check their papers very carefully during the first few years of school. Never let a practiced mistake go unattended. It will become permanent.


5) Always be focusing on and discussing:


  • Learning is of the utmost important to your child’s future.
  • Learning is his/her responsibility–not yours!
  • All learning that happens now will make future learning easier. (Learning causes dendrites to grow in the brain making more and more connections with other dendrites. The more connections there are, the easier and better learning becomes. It’s true!)
  • Always keep the learning environment positive, rewarding, and successful.
  • Provide healthy snacks and do exercise during breaks.


Be sure that before you start this new study routine, you explain to your child why you are doing it. In a friend’s kindergarten class, they have 1 goal: to be ready for 1st grade.” When she says, “Why do we sit quietly in our chairs?” or “Why are we learning our letter sounds?” the answer is always “to be ready for 1st grade.”


Maybe now would be a good time to instill the concept of being ready to start school.


Also note that having set work sessions does not prevent you from working on numbers or letters or anything else anytime you want–especially if you are out and about.


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Private piano lessons may or may not produce a musician out of one’s child. Most parents want the very best for their children. They want them to be successful, happy, smart and talented. And why not? Being exposed to a multitude of slices of life has a good chance of producing a well-rounded kid. If they are musically inclined, having lessons may give them a spring board to bounce from. If they are not so inclined, then it will be one more piece of information to have stored in their brain’s computer files. Here are some thoughts by Helene Goldnadel a life coach, about signing a child up for private lessons:


  • Rented piano: It’s wise to rent an modest piano for a kid to try out before investing in the purchase of a baby grand. If others in the family already play this musical instrument, then owning a high quality instrument will be a fine choice. If an early student is just getting his or her feet wet learning the basics, it would be wiser to rent a piano initially. Many stores will give credit toward a purchase to a previous customer who leased an instrument for a certain length of time.
  • Helps with mathematics: Musicians must do a lot of counting in their head and working with musical math equations. Keyboard lessons may not only help junior learn scales and songs but also help him with his arithmetic studies.
  • Memory enhancement: Studies have shown that musicians have better memories than the average individual. Brain mapping imagery has backed up this claim.
  • Brain looks different: The brain of a seasoned musician appears different in imagery scans than that of an average person. There are actually more nerve cells and the organ itself is larger. The cerebral cortex, which is the portion used for thought processes, language skills and perceptual expertise, is more highly developed.
  • Reorganization: Since playing a musical instrument is a complex endeavor, doing so on a regular basis has been shown in studies to actually reorganize the brain. Not only is this a great thing for children learning new skills, it is also a hopeful discovery in retraining the thought processes of stroke victims or others who have suffered some sort of neurological setback.
  • Time for playing outside: Even if a son or daughter shows promising talent with tinkling the ivories, it’s important that he or she has balance in life. Playing outside, running, jumping and riding the bicycle are also important skills to provide life balance, physical strength and agility. Moderation is the key.
  • Group lessons: A lower cost alternative to private lessons are those given to a group. It won’t provide the same level of personal attention in guiding a young individual but it will be less expensive.


Private piano lessons can enrich a childhood in multiple ways. Memory enhancement, improved math reasoning, more highly developed gray matter, and reorganization are all possible. With balance of roller skating, playing hopscotch and jumping rope, kids can have the best of both worlds.

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Many angry parents lament that their child does not take homework seriously. This warrants a question – how effectively have such parents communicated the importance of homework in education to their children in the first place?


Our kids must know for certain that we, as parents, consider homework important and significant. Here are some tips by Helene Goldnadel for parents to achieve this:


  • Ask the child after each school day what homework the teacher has assigned
  • Set aside fixed time for homework, and ensure that the child is not distracted by TV, friends or mealtimes during this period
  • By the same coin, ensure that the child does not do homework during times set aside for play, chores or family togetherness times
  • Let the child know that you’re available for helping out with the homework
  • Let the child know how homework is important in the overall context of education
  • Make encouraging remarks such as “Good boy” or “That’s my girl” when the child announces that homework is done
  • Check with teachers regularly to get feedback on how your child is doing on the homework front
  • Firmly refuse to cover up for the child with notes to the teacher if homework has not been completed


Apart from the above, it is very important to assign a dedicated place in the house for doing homework. Ideally, it should be in the child’s room, but this is not mandatory. If your child is happier doing homework at the dinner table or at the spare table in your study, then that should be the dedicated ‘homework place.’


No matter which place your child chooses, make sure it is properly lighted, quiet and otherwise comfortable. The table and chair should be of appropriate height and size, and all necessary supplies (dictionary, pencils, sharpeners, erasers, spare ballpoint pens, etc.) should be at hand.


To be able to teach your child the importance of homework, you as parents can start by displaying the right values yourself. Nothing sets a better example than letting your child see you read, write and generally engage in thought-based activity with the right degree of seriousness. It is a proven fact that children of parents who read a lot tend to pick up the habit themselves. Showcasing your high regard for regularly doing certain tasks at certain times will help your child understand the importance of structured activity.


Most importantly – the next time you’re tempted to agree with your child that homework is boring and a pain, think again. Children pick up their values from their parents. This is your chance of imparting the right attitude towards homework, so choose your response carefully.

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Although it might feel as though you are not getting anything practical done, when you are actually layering the foundations of knowledge, you are in a more powerful position in the long term to be able to make decisions that affect your child within your interactions and for their lifestyle for many years to come.


Having the knowledge is crucial for parents because parents are the ones that spend the most amount of time with their child, know their child the best and will sustain the duration with them over their lifespan.


Below are the top reasons by Helene Goldnadel why you need to educate yourself in autism:


1) Having the underlying knowledge as to WHY you are doing something is SO much more valuable than just being told to do something and do it. Why? Because you will find so many more opportunities to achieve the ‘why bother?’ throughout your day as opposed to doing the ‘what’ once or repeating it over and over.


2) Parents know their child better than any professional ever will. Put this together with the knowledge a professional knows and can apply, and you are more likely to achieve amazing things with your child. As a consultant it is my goal to pass on the knowledge that you will require to make the most advances with your child.


3) New developments. You may think to yourself ‘alright already, I know what autism is, let’s just get on with it’ BUT there are always new developments in research, child development, strategies as well as various perspectives to take on from different approaches. I am not saying that you need to know EVERYTHING before you can do ANYTHING but having an open mind and being receptive to learning as you go along will only equip you with a better stance to help your child. The fact of the matter is you never stop learning; each time you find another piece to the puzzle.


4) Layering the foundations and groundwork of any approach before doing it can only encourage you to understand what you are doing better, gain clarity on why you are doing it and what your goals are that you are aiming to achieve from doing it.


5) Be the change you want to see in the world! If you are expecting others to have a better awareness of autism, then it’s probably a good idea for you to educate yourself in autism so that you can then share this knowledge with other family, friends and members of the community. Let’s face it, if we leave it to authorities it may not ever get done and it’s just too much to expect professionals to cover alone, we ALL need to play our role in this area.


Most parents did not have autism in their life plan, I know. We learn to deal with the lessons life throws at us and for some reason or another, this is where we are right now. It’s time to embrace it, learn about it and take on the challenges we have been given and come out the other side, braver, more experienced, knowledgeable and stronger beings.

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The human brain is an amazing thing and it starts soaking up information and learning the moment we are born. The first few years of life your new baby will grow and develop at an astonishing rate, they will transform from a totally helpless infant into a confident well accomplished 6 year old going off to school all by themselves.


Through the eyes of a child the world is an infinite scary place. It is a parents responsibility to provide their basic survival needs like food and water but, parents must also teach them to grow into productive adult members of the community.


Children have short attention spans but are eager to learn everything! Their attention spans are so short in fact, once they learn a skill they do not remember a time they couldn’t do it. Each time they master a new task their confidence builds.


For a child to learn it should be fun and challenging. Sometimes they work best when a parent is close by encouraging and participating, but by the time a child is two or three the parent could be a distraction. Buying them educational toys is the key to helping them learn new things.


Researchers have done a lot of studies and they continue to find new information about the human brain and how it works. They have put a lot of effort and money into developing and manufacturing age and developmentally appropriate educational toys.


The good news is you do not have to spend a lot of money to have educational toys that your child will love and learn from. There are limitless opportunities to teach your child all they need to know. What you need to recognize is the opportunity to teach.


  • When you are outside: Talk about the clouds and the weather, look at the trails in the sky from passing jets or airplanes, what is the difference, and why don’t helicopters leave a smoke trail? The seasons offer an excellent opportunity to talk about the colors and texture of leaves and the amount of bugs seems unlimited. Why do you need to water the flowers and grass and why do you stop the water? Why shouldn’t you grab handfuls of sand from the box and throw it high in the air? Which direction gets the sun and why it is important are key to a healthy crop in the garden.


  • When you are in the house or waiting room: A simple scrap of paper can make an airplane. Crayons and pencils teach colors and fine motor skills. Telling stories and talking about what you are going to do develop communication and critical thinking skills. Singing and dancing are fun and develop memory and large motor skills.


  • While you are riding in the car safety should always be talked about. From seat belts to behavior children need to be taught how and why to ride safely in the car. Then you can talk about the different kinds of cars, why it is called a tractor and trailer and the safety issues compared to a car. Kids love to see and talk about school buses and emergency vehicles and the different purposes they serve. When you travel through construction zones you could find yourself in the middle of an argument about the differences between a backhoe and a tractor. Local landmarks help children develop an awareness of space and direction.


Helene Goldnadel is of the view that you don’t need to spend a lot of money or be a genius that the best way to benefit your child is communication. Without you to encourage and explain their natural curiosity a child does not know the answers.

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Every eight seconds, more and more babies are being born all over the world. Every minute, more and more parents are thinking of ways to make their children the best among the rest. These parents are more likely to explore the whole world just to be able to give everything to their kids to make them grow smarter and wiser. They believe that educational toys are absolutely their partners in raising smarter babies. Hence, most, if not all, these parents will look for every educational toy they can grab in the market today.


But what makes an educational toy different from an ordinary toy? Essentially, these toys, just like other toys, are simply invented for and to be used by children. Any person can argue that an educational toy is in fact any toy. The only difference they have is how the children perceive these toys or the reality of their significance.


Ideally, an educational toy, which is believe to be our partners in raising smarter babies advances intellectuality and imagination, and promotes the emotional, physical, and social development of children. These toys pave ways to faster learning of children with new skills. Therefore, what really makes this toy different from other usual toys is the child’s learning and development associated with playing with them.


Simple wooden blocks are actually a good start for preschool children to instigate learning the elementary principles of science and causal relationships, as well as patience and basic hand-eye coordination. Elementary children can be encouraged to play with interlocking manipulative toys like Legos or puzzles to further improve their mind-body coordination, virtue of patience, and appreciation of spatial relationships.


All educators hold the same opinion that is, the most effective, most natural, and the best method of educating children is through play. Among the most important elements in teaching children are educational toys, developmental games, and learning materials. But there are really no rules in deciding the right choice of toys and games for your children. You can try experimenting from simple books and educational toys moving gradually to more intricate educational games, science activities, and puzzles.


If there is actually a rule, it can only be one that is, to go after your child’s interests. You can tag along your kid’s interests be it play dough clays or electronic keyboard or pirate games as you will never go wrong with these. For sure, they will inspire your children’s imagination, senses, and cleverness. Let them express themselves either through academic subjects (i.e., music, art, history, language) or sports (i.e., ball games, skating, ballet).


There are indeed so many ways to raise our children to be smarter and wiser people. We have all kinds of educational toys available in the market. We just have to know well what are outside there and learn how to listen and support our children’s interests. We can give them heaps of educational toys but if the child has no interest, then it cannot serve its function to educate the child.


Make sure you will introduce your children to variety of educational toys and when they already choose one or two, you just have to guide them along the way. Remember, these educational toys are just our partners in raising smarter babies but they are not the sole key to success. As the saying goes, Nine tenths of education is Encouragement. Parents as well as educators just have to make these children realize that learning is not so boring after all, but rather a fun development of themselves.


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Most therapists concur that dealing with the truth that your tyke has a learning incapacity is an intense thing to acknowledge. In any case, guardians additionally need to think about that their tyke’s inability might be an option that is other than only a mind issue. Consider in the event that you will issues with visual perception and hearing. Youngsters who experience difficulty hearing may seem, by all accounts, to be moderate students in the study hall, in day care, or kindergarten, however there might be nothing more amiss with them than the essential hearing issue, and once that is dealt with they can contend and do well in the homeroom as some other tyke.


In this manner, guardians need to ensure they complete the correct tests ahead of time of ousting their youngsters into a specialized curriculum class, where they may not have a place. Along these lines, on one hand guardians need to acknowledge the clear issues and concede there is a genuine issue and get over that issue, however on the second hand, they ought not only acknowledge it before all the hard decisions they should make. All things considered, it may be a year or two preceding the specialized curriculum educators understand that the kid is immaculate inside and out aside from a minor eye issue or hearing issue.


Luckily, our schools and therapists are getting much better at all this, so, generally speaking after taking a few tests with some professionals early detection is completely possible. Another issue is that often children experience learning disabilities which are temporary, and with minor modification, or working through other issues as described here. Perhaps the take-away here is to seek the right help early, and if you think your child is not responding correctly, or having trouble that other children aren’t – then it behooves you to get the appropriate experts to figure out what is going on.


Indeed, it may be nothing, or it very well could be an easily correctable problem. These things need to be thought out, and you as a parent in this situation need to have a plan, so that your child gets the appropriate education. Sticking a kid in a special education class when they don’t belong can have devastating effects and curtail learning due to a low challenge environment.


Now then, here is what Helene Goldnadel recommends; seek professional help early, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Be skeptical of anyone who tells you your child can’t make it in a regular classroom without proper tests and proof.


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